Okay, dads can't breastfeed their baby. There are many things that you can do to impact a mother's choice to breastfeed and help her to breastfeed effectively. Chief among these things is learning as much as you can about breastfeeding.
Why Should Fathers Encourage Breastfeeding?
- Research shows that breastfed babies have fewer colds and ear infections.
- The nutrients in breastmilk help build the baby's brain and immune system.
- Breastmilk is always the right temperature and ready to serve.
- Breastfeeding builds a close bond between mother, father and baby.
How Can Fathers Be a Part of the Breastfeeding Team?
Here are some suggestions from the Fathers Supporting Breastfeeding project:
- Help around the house. If there are other children, take care of them so mom can get some rest.
- Take your baby to mom for breastfeeding. If mom needs something while she's breastfeeding, offer to get it for her.
- Do things that will make mom feel good about herself:
- Praise her for breastfeeding
- Do something special for her
- Be proud!
- Make time for just you and your baby. Babies need cuddles and hugs from their dads, too.
- When mom is breastfeeding, help her feel comfortable and relaxed.
- Your support can make mom feel more comfortable about breastfeeding, even in public.
- When the baby gets hungry and needs eat in public, mom can breastfeed without people noticing her.
- Mom can use a blanket or a shawl to up while breastfeeding. People will think simply cuddling the baby.
Breast Milk Is Best for Your Baby
Breast milk is the perfect food for your baby. It is the only food your baby needs during her first six months. A baby is not ready for other foods, except formula, during the first few months of life.
A breastfed baby usually doesn't need water. However, you may give her water if the weather is hot and your home is not air-conditioned. Don't add sugar or honey to the water. Don't give flavored drinks or soda pop to your baby. Don't give fruit juice to a newborn baby.
Breast milk is best for your baby's health. Breastfed babies don't get sick as often, and they usually don't have as many allergies. They may even be smarter! Also, breastfeeding seems to protect mothers from certain types of health problems.
Mothers often find that breast milk is the easiest way to feed their babies. Also, there is no cost.
You don't have to wash and sterilize bottles and nipples when you breastfeed. This leaves more time for other things. Breastfeeding your baby can even help you lose some of the weight you gained when you were pregnant. Breastfeeding can be a pleasing experience for baby and mom.
Breastfeeding Is Natural
Babies need to eat often - every 90 minutes to two hours. Feed your baby when she begins to show signs of hunger, such as rooting or sucking on her lips, fingers or fist. Try to feed her before she cries. Feeding your baby often won't spoil her. It will help you learn to become more aware of your baby's needs.
Don't limit feeding times. Babies need different amounts of food at different times of the day, just as grown people do.
Relax! Take your time. The more you nurse your baby, the more milk you will have. Do not give your baby formula or water. If you do, you will make less milk. If you think you do not have enough milk, nurse more often and nurse longer.
To learn more about breastfeeding, you may want to contact your local health department, WIC clinic, hospital, La Leche league or doctor. You can call La Leche league at 1-800-LALECHE, or visit their Web site at www.lalecheleague.org.
Breastfeeding is natural, but it takes a little time for babies and mothers to learn what works best for them. You may have sore nipples when you first start breastfeeding. The pain can be reduced if your baby is held properly when attached to the breast.
Here are some useful tips:
- Hold your baby's tummy to your tummy, baby's chin to your breast. You can do this sitting or lying down. Hold your breast in a "C-hold," with your thumb on top and fingers underneath. Tickle your baby's lips with your nipple until her mouth opens wide. Quickly bring her onto the breast. Allow the tip of your baby's nose and chin to touch the breast.
- Make sure your baby's mouth covers your entire nipple and much of the darker part around the nipple. Your baby's upper and lower lips should be rolled out. If the lips are not rolled out, break the suction by slipping your finger between the baby's gums and your breast. Then latch the baby on again.
- Offer your baby both breasts at each feeding. Your baby will tell you when she is finished by "falling off" the breast.
- After feeding, rub a few drops of breast milk onto your nipples. Let them air dry. Then cover the nipple with nursing pads, a bra or clothing. This will help keep them from getting too dry.
Your nipples may be tender in the first few days of breastfeeding. This is common. By and large, tenderness goes away once the milk begins to flow. If you have a lot of pain, call a breastfeeding counselor or your doctor. Your doctor or counselor can also help if you have cracked or bleeding nipples. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't right.
If you are out with your baby, you can still breastfeed. You may want to take along a receiving blanket or shawl with which to cover up.
If you have to be away from your baby, you can still give her breast milk. You can withdraw or "express" breast milk by hand or with a breast pump into a sterile container. Then someone else can give it to her in a bottle.
It is important for you to have adequate, high-quality nutrition and drink enough water. You should avoid drugs while breastfeeding unless the doctor specifically tells you to take a certain medication even though you are breastfeeding.
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