You and Your Baby
During the first month of your baby's life, you and your baby spend a lot of time getting to know each other. Your baby will spend most of his time sleeping. You will spend most of your time learning the best way to meet your baby's needs. Sometimes, you may feel tired and nervous. These feelings are a signal that you need to take care of yourself. Here are some ways to do it:
- Make sure you get enough sleep. Take a nap when your baby does. If you can't, try to spend some time relaxing.
- Keep your home as quiet and calm as possible. Turn off your radio and TV. This will help calm your baby.
- Simplify housework. Just do the basics. Older children can help dust, pick up toys, sweep the floor and wash dishes. Dad or other family members can help, too.
- Be sure to eat nutritious food. If you are breastfeeding, avoid alcohol and limit caffeine. Avoid drinking more than two to three cups of coffee a day.
- Simplify your meals. Nutritious salads, soups and sandwiches are quick and easy to prepare.
- Make some time for yourself. Take a hot bath to relax or do some reading. You can look forward to taking a break when you are stressed.
- Enjoy spending time with your baby. You can put your baby in a sling, backpack or stroller and take a walk through a mall or a park. Be sure that your baby is safely secured in these devices. Never leave your baby unattended in a stroller.
- Do something you enjoy. If you breastfeed, you can read while nursing your baby.
- Call a relative or friend if you have questions or when you are feeling stressed. Talking to someone who has had similar experiences and feelings can help you.
What's It Like To Be a One Month Old?At one month old:
- I like to look at black and white colors and patterns more than at other colors.
- I roll part of the way from my back to my side.
- I keep my hands or fingers slightly open most of the time.
- Sometimes I root around and try to suck, even when I'm not feeding.
- I make some throaty or gurgling sounds.
- I need you to protect the soft spot on the top of my head.
- I cry when I am hungry, wet or tired, or when I want to be held.
- I may smile at you when I see you or hear you.
- I make eye contact with you.
- Loud noises, bright lights or rough handling scare me.
- I'm often fussy in the evenings.
- I turn my head sideways when I'm on my stomach.
- My head wobbles if you don't hold it. I need you to put your hand behind my head and neck.
- I have learned that I will be fed when I am hungry.
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